After a bad date, it’s easy say things like “all men are dogs.” But I look at that statement the other way. Training your Sugar Daddy from the beginning results in a more enjoyable connection.
Like dogs or even small children, any given POT or SD will try things here and there to push your boundaries, just to see when and if you’ll cave in. So it matters that you stand your ground on the things that are important to you. In this article, I’ll give you an example of how I train a POT/SD to respect my time.
As a precursor to my example below (and this article in general), I just want to say that this “training” really only applies to small quirks of an otherwise perfectly compatible SD. By no means am I suggesting that a POT who wants different things than you can be “trained” out of them. Trust me, your best bet in that situation is to move on if he can’t come to a middle ground.
Example: Respect My Time
A big complaint that bounces around the SB community (and also happens to be a major peeve of mine) is that many SDs assume we’re available at a moment’s notice. And while I understand that part of an arrangement is built on convenience, there is a definite line between having a flexible schedule and building your schedule around your SD.
This matters, because the way he views your time is a direct reflection of his respect for you. If he’s calling you at 10pm expecting you to be available for a booty call, guess what… he doesn’t think much of you. If he calls you at 4:30pm expecting you to meet at 5 o’clock happy hour, he doesn’t think much of you.
If he’s more than a half hour late for a date, or if he ghosts or cancels last-minute, then guess what—he doesn’t think much of you. The best, most effective way to train him to respect your time is by teaching (or showing) him what behavior you don’t allow.
If a POT ghosts or cancels last-minute on a first date, don’t reschedule with him unless he does something to show how sincerely sorry he is for wasting your time. Ignore all late-night texts until the next morning. If he texts late in the afternoon wanting to hang out that night, say you wish you could, but you have Pilates etc. You wish you’d had more notice, but you’re very much looking forward to your next (planned) date.
If he wants to be a part of your life, he needs to treat you exactly how you deserve to be treated. Getting a response from you late at night is a reward to be earned, not something that’s freely given to every POT that crosses your path. Dropping your commitments to go out should be an exception made only for an established SD that has something very special planned.
What’s important to note here is that there is no confrontation or passive aggressive behavior. It’s understandable that he might have to cancel, and be understanding of that. But after that, it’s essential that he make the next move- and make it a good one. Give him a chance to correct the behavior, and share your feelings on time in a polite, can’t-wait-to-see-you-when-I’m-available kind of way.
This can be applied to any behavior you don’t like. Be understanding, but don’t let things that bother you happen multiple times without a calm attempt to correct the behavior. These little tips may seem silly, but they send a strong message that you have a life and commitments that you value and intend to follow through on—with or without him.
This was just one example—there are many other areas where you can show an SD how to treat you the way you deserve.
Good luck and Happy Sugaring!