Why Sugar Daddies Ghost
Picture this: You’re on SeekingArrangement.com, and you’ve been browsing for quite some time. The sea of Sugar Daddies seems endless, but you’re looking for the perfect Daddy that fits your needs. Finally, you spot him! He’s interested in the same activities as you, reads the same books as you, wants the same arrangement as you, etc.
You casually message him, and after a brief period of back and forth banter, you reel him in. You meet up for a date, and everything seems to go smoothly. You two have a connection, you talked, you laughed, and you discussed the details of your arrangement.
Suddenly, he stops talking to you. You attempt to give him space, but eventually after a few days, you shoot him a text. He gives some sort of bogus excuse: work has had him tied up, he has a lot going on in his life right now, etc. You give it more time, attempt not to pressure him, but the communication lags.
Now he’s updating his SeekingArrangement.com profile–what?! Where did you go wrong? Your POT has now become the ghost of Sugar Daddies’ Past. Unfortunately, this is very common, even if it seems unfair. However, you cannot automatically blame yourself when this happens. I’m here to tell you the real, underlying reasons about why Sugar Daddies ghost.
Plenty of Fish in the Sea
Regardless of how well a date goes, some men are just reluctant to start the sort of regular, consistent arrangement most Sugar Babies want. This doesn’t mean that a Sugar Baby isn’t in line with his taste, or that they did anything wrong.
Sometimes you can have steak at home, but going out for burgers sounds more appealing. There is a ratio of 8 Sugar Babies for every Sugar Daddy, so the possibilities for him are actually endless. He may have ghosted because he has other options.
He’s A Total Newb
This could be his first time that he’s trying Seeking Arrangement. He may not be particularly seasoned or understand the etiquette between Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies in the bowl because he’s still very new to this community. They may be trying the site out and they like the vast response from attractive women, but are uncomfortable with the idea of giving someone money.
Daddy Is Sketched Out
Maybe you brought up money fairly quickly. A common mistake, but not something unfixable. The problem is that you may have established an unsavory first impression, when you meant to be direct and ask a genuine question.
Sugar Daddies don’t want to “pay to date someone” and the SBs need to help them realize it’s about gifting someone they’re in a relationship with. If the Sugar Daddy doesn’t want the relationship, he won’t gift. You can read more about asking for money too soon, and other mistakes you might be making here.
The Best Way to React?
To quote one of my favorite chick-flicks, “He’s Just Not That Into You,” if a man wants to see you, he will see you. If a man is interested in you, he will make the time for you. Yes, Sugar Relationships deviate from the “norm,” but the intricacies of a man pursuing a woman who interests him have not.
A word to the wise: do not waste your time thinking about someone who has not thought twice about you. If he ghosted, drop that Daddy and find someone a little more “Hugh Hefner” and a little less “Casper.”
I’m a brand new POT SD and am absolutely fascinated by this lifestyle. In my first week on the site I went out with five SB’s. Had four really great dates and one completely wretched one.
While I would never ghost, three of my four good M&G’s were definitely one and done while one remains a possibility. You missed a key reason that SBs might not be getting a second meeting.
The reason the three were one and done is their understanding of basic etiquette and manners was appalling. In one case I was utterly aghast. So despite having a good time and good conversation I would be embarrassed to be with these women anywhere but a bar or a bedroom.
Regardless of how insanely hot you may be, do you really think I’ll drop $12k on a VS Upper Class ticket if I know the Flight Services Manager (and even the bartender) will be snickering behind my back? Do you think I’ll bring you to a gala or opening or, god forbid, a trip to a board meeting with colleagues?
Am I an elitist? Absolutely, but I know from whence I speak. My family has been in the US since 1619. I’m fourth generation Ivy League educated. My manners weren’t studied or taught, just absorbed. You almost certainly don’t have those advantages, so read some blogs, buy some books maybe invest in a class. Put down your Lucky or Cosmo or Us Weekly and invest in improving yourself. While I can’t speak first hand to the benefits of paying SA to improve your profile I imagine it would be a worthwhile investment.
One final tip. DON’T GHOST! Ever. Two of the girls I met whom I thought had a great time with me, including the one I liked a lot and thought might have some potential (despite her fake DDs), completely ghosted me. That’s just appalling.
Unless you felt compelled to throw your drink in your date’s face send him a polite thank you message within the the next day or two…possibly explain that you didn’t feel there was a match, but that’s not completely necessary. Feel free to ignore/block/ghost AFTER the polite thank you, but show some class and thank the gentleman. It takes 2 minutes tops. And a text 15 minutes after the end of the date is NOT sufficient.
You may not see the point, so I’ll explain why. I move in the same circles as the other SDs in my neck of the woods. If you ghost me and down the road I see you on someone else’s arm at the ballet I’ll be feeling sorry for the sucker. Wouldn’t you prefer that I were standing there thinking “I wish she was with me?”
You probably think this doesn’t apply to you. Everyone thinks they’ve got a great sense of humor, are great in bed and have some class. My experience one week in as that very few of you do.
Invest in yourself and improve your game if you really want to excel in this lifestyle.
Just my two cents.